Athar
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Post by Athar on Jun 18, 2004 14:22:09 GMT -5
I'm making this thread so that anyone who cuts or hurts themselves in anyway can get help from other people who SI as well... Any kind of talk can go on in her except for threats and any kind off things pertaining to murder... Sorry but I had to put that in if I didn't you never know what would happen....
Ok I guess I should start off with a question huh?
Does anyone know how to stop SI?
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Post by Lore13 on Jun 19, 2004 19:40:31 GMT -5
Self-Injury is a very trying situation. And stopping it is never going to be easy. From my own experiences with cutting, I have to say that the best way to stop is to see a councelor. It's not something to look forward to, and it's not fun but in the long run, it's worth it.
I myself am lucky enough to have stopped myself one day and just thought 'What am I doing to myself?' Just take a few minutes and really think about it.
I think the first step is to tell yourself that you want to stop what you're doing, and that you never want to hurt yourself again. That's the easy part. Putting that into action gets hard. Then you need to decide what the best aproach it. I think that the best thing to do is to get a diary (if you don't already have one) and write about everything. Bring it everywhere with you. Write everyday, as often as you can. If you have no one to talk to, or are too ashamed to talk, or aren't ready, a diary can work wonders.
But a diary isn't always enough. I strongly urge anyone who knows that they want to stop hurting themselves to find a councelor, and set up an appointment. It's very different than what you might think. Just try it, what can it hurt?
And most importantly, try and keep your spirits up. Try looking at the bright side of things. Life is an amazing gift that doesn't last forever. Don't take it for granted. Cherish it and enjoy it. No matter how rough life gets, remember that you will get through it.
Good luck,
Lore
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Vicious
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Post by Vicious on Jun 20, 2004 11:52:02 GMT -5
*Looks at these people* Conselurs are good.. but the best way to do it.. confront people that you know that really care for you, or that can truely make you feel like what you did was the worse thing in the world.. Why am I sayin that, cause guilt works in most cases.. I use to be beatin up, and all that fun stuff.. so when I wasn't I ended not cuttin, but burning, and doing the craziest stunts out there.. It took someone whom just made me feel guitly about it, and after about a month, I was normal it felt like.. Of course now here I am 22 and no longer can feel pain, but that was to the fact I didn't stop it till I was about 17 or so.. But thing is, its curable.. Its not a disease, its not a mental thing.. Its just a tendacy.. those can be broken.. your not mental ill.. or crazy.. you've gotten yourself into a groove, you need to get out of it..
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Post by Lore13 on Jun 21, 2004 15:46:25 GMT -5
That's definatly a different way of dealing with it, Vicious. I personally don't think it helps much to start feeling worse about it, and yourself. And people that are deeper into that 'groove', just aren't going to feel guilty about it plain and simple.
But, it worked for you so, who knows. ::shrug::
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NiveditaVidula
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Post by NiveditaVidula on Aug 1, 2004 16:49:05 GMT -5
guilt never worked for me either. guilt was the cause of the whole thing. some bad things were going on with me friends when i started, and i took it to myself, and convinced myself that it was my fault. i just took on all their pain at once. i haven't quiet managed the Empathy power... i still am not very good at telling the difference between my feelings and other peoples, but i definately am getting better at knowing what things are and are not my fault. i stopped SI about a month ago. maybe a little more. i just had to realize that i had to trust in God to get me through things, and that by doing what i was doing i wasn't helping anything, i was making it worse. i don't think i'll ever SI again.
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NiveditaVidula
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Post by NiveditaVidula on Aug 1, 2004 16:54:11 GMT -5
Its not a disease, its not a mental thing.. Its just a tendacy.. those can be broken.. your not mental ill.. or crazy.. you've gotten yourself into a groove, you need to get out of it.. I dissagree with you Vicious. it's not necesarrily a tendency, and it can be brought on by mental ilness. it's different for everybody. it's not a disease, it's a symptom. but again, that isn't always true either. some people just do it becuase their friends are. and for other's it's an escape. it can be any number of things. |
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Post by The Doom Merchant on Aug 3, 2004 5:32:06 GMT -5
I agree...everybody does it for different reasons...
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Post by Loriel on Dec 1, 2004 17:56:46 GMT -5
Sad to admit...but I had cut myself a couple of times. Sometimes this is brought up about mental illness and it helps to have someone you care about confront you. It helped me wake up...I am still a bit childish sometimes...but it helps a lot having people you care about. Of course everyone is different, what works for me, might not work for you. I didn't act wild like V, I acted with apathy and still do sometimes. I have gotten better since this summer...it takes time to heal the wounds...time is sometimes the best healer...
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NiveditaVidula
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Post by NiveditaVidula on Dec 10, 2004 19:23:44 GMT -5
I used to SI all the time... i found soo many different ways to hurt myself...well, i was going to say, you wouldn't beleive, but then again, you probably would... I had a realy hard time stopping it. I did start to do it for a time when i was in the seventh grade. that was right around september eleventh, probably only a month or two went by before i started to SI, possibly less. probably less. i got really depressed and considered suicide a few times. Thanksgiving of that year was my absolute low point. i was at my Aunts house, and we were having dinner and i just got really upset and sat out in the car. next thing i knew i had my hand on the door handle, opening the door to jump out in front of a car. not fun. after that suicide came up a few more times. i almost took a bottle of asprin to "kill the pain"... by that point a few of my friends were doing cocaine, and whenever i told them i was suicidal, they turned it into a joke and just laughed at me. I turned to some different friends after that and somehow they pulled me back up on my feet. i think it was around march of 2002 that i woke up and thought, "the world is really okay, i don't have to be scared anymore..." of course, that wasn't true, but i was young...
I had another bout with SI last year. i guess it never REALLY went away. i was just carrying it, it was sleeping, waiting for the perfect time to pop out and bend my mind to the demon's will... I had had an abusive boyfriend not long before that, and my life became hell. Everything started falling apart after that. I was too ashamed of my cutting to tell my friends, and it took me about a month to admit to them what i was doing... i think one of them may have caught me actually, but i can't really remember. i do know that one of my friends called my mom and told her something was up. i think that was the same day my schools social worker called about the same thing. I had gotten called down to her office because someone had told her they thought i was going to kill myself, which was true, but i had made a living lying my way through life, and i brushed it off and faked the happiness i wished i could feel. i had no problem passing that off, and the social worker told my mom what had happened, but that i was fine. but then my friend called and my mom knew something was up. That was the low point of bout two with SI. At least i had the courage to ask for help that time. and it was the absolute hardest thing i've ever had to do. so i had to go back to counceling, started fighting with my mom, got my anger and frustrations out, and went back to being "normal." yeah..sure. i am not cutting anymore, my friends got me through that, but i am still fighting it. In gym class one day my friends and i had a rather large powwow in which we all broke down (guys included) because we were talking about our SI chronicles...
I have to periodically remind myself (nearly everyday) "okay, you're not going to cut yourself today." it's really hard. It was particulary difficult, because after i started cutting some of the people i thought were friends sarted cutting too, because they either had issues too and just needed the idea, or because i was doing it and they thought it was cool. three of them actually. and after i decided to try to stop, one of them would cut in front of me and try to get me to join him... not fun times... fortunately i never left anyhting that was scar-worthy, so i don't have to be reminded of it everytime i look at myself, but, it still hangs over my back like a storm cloud. i don't think there is a was to stop SI. Not a defined one anyway. you'll always be a cutter in hybernation, i think. just like at AA they tell you that you'll always be an alchoholic. habits are hard to break, and bad habits are even worse. But just like every one starts for a different reason, everyone has to stop for a different reason too.
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